Finding a Therapist: A Guide to Starting Your Journey

Finding a therapist can feel overwhelming. It takes time to research, call or email, hope to be contacted back, and ultimately find someone you connect with. However, the effort is worth it, as the right therapist can make a life-changing difference. Here’s a guide to help you navigate the process and feel more confident about taking this important step.

Why Finding the Right Therapist Matters

A strong connection between you and your therapist is the cornerstone of successful therapy. Therapists specialize in working with different ages, concerns, and challenges. For instance, some therapists focus on children, while others work with adults or in areas like eating disorders or developmental disabilities. This means finding a therapist with the right expertise is crucial.

Equally important is the personal connection. As a client, you should feel seen, heard, and comfortable. It’s normal to feel nervous about starting therapy and opening up to someone new. You may even feel emotional during the first phone call or session, which is perfectly okay. Therapists are trained to create a safe space where you can express yourself without fear or shame.

What to Expect When Starting Therapy

Therapists aim to determine whether they can help you on your journey. They may ask you to complete forms before your session or ask questions during your appointment about your feelings, symptoms, support systems, coping strategies, and therapy goals.

If you’re unsure about your goals, that’s fine! Goals can range from general (e.g., "I want to feel less anxious" or "I want to feel happier") to specific (e.g., "I want to leave my marriage" or "I want to find a new job"). Therapists can help you clarify your goals and create actionable steps to achieve them.

It’s also okay if it takes a few sessions to feel comfortable opening up. Therapy moves at your pace. Remember, it’s a collaborative relationship, and your therapist is there to guide and support you. If you ever feel the therapist isn’t a good fit, it’s okay to voice your concerns or ask questions to clarify how you’ll work together.

Therapy as a Collaborative Process

As a therapist, I often describe therapy as a buffet of options. My role is to present different tools and strategies, such as breathing exercises, mantras, or tips for reducing stress. You’re the one choosing what to try. For instance, you might decide to reduce energy drink intake, skip mantras, and explore breathwork. This collaborative approach ensures that the strategies align with your needs and preferences.

Therapy takes time, but with patience and effort, it can be transformative.

Where to Find a Therapist

Word of Mouth

Ask family, friends, church members, or neighbors for recommendations.
Parents can ask their child’s school system or other moms for suggestions.

Online Searches

Use search engines to look for therapists by specialty, e.g., “Anxiety therapists near [your location]” or “Child therapists in [your zip code].”

Online Directories

Social Media

Facebook groups, especially local community or mom groups, can be a great resource for finding therapist recommendations.

When exploring online options, be cautious. Some platforms have fees or require commitments to a certain number of sessions. Always check the therapist’s credentials and reviews before proceeding.

Final Thoughts

Taking the first step to find a therapist can feel daunting, but it’s a courageous move toward growth and healing. Remember, therapy is a journey built on trust, connection, and collaboration. Don’t hesitate to reach out—the right therapist can help you unlock your potential and improve your life.

Call or email a therapist today to begin your journey toward a better you.