How Parents Can Appreciate Teens & College Students

Teens and young adults thrive when they feel seen, valued, and understood — not just corrected or directed.

Here are ways parents can model and express gratitude:

1. Thank them for who they are, not just what they do.

“You’re thoughtful.”

“You try hard.”

“You’re growing into such a caring person.”

Teens need identity-based encouragement.

2. Thank them for navigating a world much harder than the one you grew up in.

School pressure.

Social media.

Adultification.

Sometimes just naming it is a gift.

3. Notice small efforts.

Teens hear criticism louder than praise.

Try:

“I saw you trying — that matters.”

“Thanks for communicating with me.”

4. Share your gratitude in a non-awkward way.

Teens appreciate low-pressure warmth:

• A note on the counter

• A text

• Buying their favorite snack

• Saying “Thanks for hanging out with me today.”

5. Thank them for their honesty.

Even when it's hard for you. Even when it’s messy.

Honesty is vulnerability — and teens remember when you respond with grace instead of frustration.